6 Ways to Maintain a Healthy Loving Relationship
We all want it. We want the fairy tale, the romance, the support system…the hand holding and date nights. But let’s face it, it is work to maintain a healthy relationship.
Here are 10 tips building and maintaining a healthy loving relationship with your partner:
Take care of yourself. No one can take care of or be there for others when they are not taken care of themselves.
Keep outside relationships and interests alive. No one can be everything to someone. A balanced life helps take the pressure off each other to meet each other’s every need. Appreciate your differences, remember they existed before you and are part of what attracted you to each other in the first place.
Communicate openly and honestly. Trust is key in a relationship. Tell the truth, even when it is hard. Your partner does not have ESP - express your needs, your desires, and your dreams.
Listen and hear what your partner needs. Just like you must express your needs, be open to hearing what your partner needs. We all know what happens when we assume. It’s the small intimacies that come from this communication that keep the spark alive.
Fight fair. Cool down so you do not say something you will regret. Use “I” statements instead of accusations. And take responsibility for your own role when issues come up.
Be affectionate and affirming. Learn what makes your partner feel love and express love in their language. (The Gottman Institute: Learn to Speak Your Partner’s Love Languages)
A healthy relationship is something you must take care of; you must put in the work to maintain it and it must always be in front of you no matter how long you and your partner are together. When you take care of yourself and your partner, your relationship will blossom.
About the Author
Neeley R. Hughey, PhD, LMHC, is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP) and Certified Life with over 20 years of experience specializing in CPTSD, PTSD, Trauma, Depression and Anxiety.
Call 321.757.4015 to make an appointment with Neeley.